I am never one to struggle with starting conversations. One of my favorite things to do is to make new friends. If you’re quiet in a group and I see you…chances are that I will find you. *the people that hate talking to others start to cringe here* I love being able to talk to people, to understand them, or to hear about their journey. I’ve always been a people person. But that doesn’t mean that I have conversations down to a science. Sometimes, there are just times that I can’t get people to talk, and well, that’s awkward. I always feel like it’s up to me in my friend groups to get people started by upping the ante.
There’s this thing I’ve done with some friends in Nashville. I believe Kait got it from her cousin Tammy. Since Kait showed me this cool thing, I decided to bring it to Indiana. It’s one of the neatest things you’ll ever play, just because you’re taking a break from those cell phones, televisions, and electronic devices to get back to the basics of conversing and being in each other’s company.
Dinner talk. So, picture this. One of my best friends is ultra sweet, like totally sweet. She’s extremely funny, but shy, and she is easily stressed out. A series of events plus her feeling sick, led her to be in a ‘mood’ when we had dinner plans the other night. Her sister in law was also with us, another friend of mine, who, just kinda takes everything in and doesn’t say a whole lot, unless she’s asked. She’s more of a thinker. Then, there’s me: happy to be eating of course, feeling great that I’m off work, always have some sort of crazy story, etc. Honestly, I’m kind of annoying because I feel like I’m always pretty happy and quirky. Some people don’t know how to handle that. Well, we sit down at dinner and we catch up with one another, but we all start focusing on the television screens within the restaurant or our phones. We have lull after lull. It was then, I decided to fix it.
I got on my phone and found some thought provoking questions that we could all answer, talk about, and giggle about to liven the mood. Truly, I just googled conversation starters and came up with a few different lists: What super power would you choose and why? If you could go anywhere in the world, where would it be? What is something that would shock me, that I don’t know about you? If you could ask God one question, what would it be? What is one thing that you regret in your life? What was the time in your life that you were at maximum happiness? You get the idea, right? These questions led to some thing amazing. We sat and talked for ours. We laughed and answered question after question to the point where we didn’t need the aid of the google questions any longer.
House chats. We were all sitting around the house bored and wondering what we were going to do, when someone suggested we play “Table Topics” a card Conversation Starter game. These are little cards that have questions on them like: What instrument would you love to master? Where was the most beautiful drive you’ve ever taken? What kind of business would you like to start? What do you love about your hometown? We had over 8 people in a circle and honestly it was one of my most memorable nights. We all learned so much about one another and even the wife of a married couple said, “We’ve known each other for 10 years and I didn’t know that about you!”
These little conversation starters are one the coolest things I’ve ever seen out there. If you’re looking for a good Christmas or birthday gift, they’re on Amazon for around $25 dollars and you’ll learn more about someone than you knew before. I promise, your night will be anything but boring. Sometimes, it helps to remember that our lives are in front of us and not on some tiny device we hold or televisions on the wall.